We might have been under a fixed, but misguided, notion that a daddy is a man who is older than we are, more successful, possessing a larger cock, toting a belly or a furry body that signifies the direction to which we are evolving in physical form. These associations are not outrightly wrong. In fact, many men who demonstrate these physical attributes are, indeed, excellent daddies. However, there may be far more of these physical stereotypes that exude considerably fewer of the psychological traits that we may actually require from a daddy.

Each of us is encoded with a blueprint that is either activated or not: instructing us in how to nurture another; to grow in wisdom, patience, and presence; to hold space for another so that he may lay down his burdens and be fully received. This blueprint is an archetypal form, the universal father within us all. We can learn to cultivate his ideal skills as we grow and discard outdated beliefs about exactly what makes another man eligible for us to reveal to him our most vulnerable selves. In this sense, daddy is, therefore, more of a verb than a noun, a domain of emotional qualities more than it is an objectifiable set of physical attributes.