A lot of us use porn as a way to not just get off, but to secretly satisfy our hidden desires and kinks. Because we don’t accept these “filthy” aspects of who we are, we keep them hidden from the people around us – even those to whom we’re closest, such as lovers, long-term partners or friends. But does it need to be this way?

Even if our partners or fuckbuddies don’t share our specific kinks, remember that hot sex need not mirror what we watch in porn. Instead, it can be fueled by it.